This one is always hard to admit when you want to be known as the strong, independent, “don’t need a man” type of woman. But in reality when we are in a relationship, we have needs that we tend to forget about and allow to be out on the back burner. Have you ever caught yourself feeling like you’re stuck in a loop, doing the same thing over and over and your parter is starting to feel like a roommate? You aren’t alone sis. And you shouldn’t feel bad about it. But part of that feeling is because we fail to recognize OUR NEEDS in a relationship. Don’t stay stuck, it’s time to wake up!
Security. This is something we as humans [in general] need and have needed from the time we were born. Think back to when you were a kid, who did you need to feel safe? A parent, grandparent, sibling? We always needed that secure feeling in order to have a sense of calmness to get through something. The same goes for adulthood, we need security, and that comes from our partner. If you have an absent partner who doesn’t make you feel safe, ever, honey you need to cut your losses and move the hell on. That situation is NOT for you.
Non-Sexual Affection. I’m telling you what, this topic needs to be talked about more because all these dudes are out here just thinking they can get us into bed and we will be satisfied. UM, no sir. You are a queen and you deserve to be treated as such. What ever happened to men who would hold your hand, rub your feet, and kiss your forehead? Did they all just up and die? Honestly, where are they, because some of these dusty dudes out here think they can just come on up into a relationship and only give half ass effort and I’m telling you right now, it’s not good enough.
Open & Honest Communication. Honestly, I’m rolling my eyes and shaking my head right now. Because communication is becoming a thing of the past. When did we stop talking to each other about our feelings? And when did we as women allow this to happen? It’s not acceptable and it’s time to admit that to ourselves. Yes, sometimes it’s easier to just let things go, but you’ll pay for it in the long run. Be aware of what YOU NEED and voice it! You are a strong, independent woman who should be heard. Don’t let your voice be silenced, no matter how small the issue may be.
Leadership. Okay, yes this is a hard one to admit. But think about it for a second. If you are in a relationship do you want to be the leader of the household or do you want your man to step up and make some damn decisions? Wouldn’t it be nice to come home and him say, “I’ve made plans for dinner, get dressed up, I’m taking you on a date.” None of that flip flopping back and forth of “I don’t care, you choose,” it’s about stepping up and taking lead. Especially for a working woman, we deserve the chance to not have to make all the decisions ALL the time. And yes, I know, you are an alpha female, but even the alphas need a little direction at times, so let your hair down and let your man take the lead……sometimes ;)